Stress Relief Tool – Write Your Own Eulogy

Writing about what is said at your funeral helps you determine whether your time spent is in proper alignment with your true self - providing you stress relief in the process.

What a sad ending to your life it would be to be lying on your death bed worrying over a decision that you did or didn’t make. If there is a better reality check than this, I can’t imagine what it would be. I certainly know I won’t regret that I didn’t spend an additional hour a day working.

When we write about how we’d like to be remembered, we can examine our priorities and goals from a broader perspective.

If you are game, here is how you do it:1

Draft two eulogies to be read at your funeral. The first one should be as if you were to have died today. Visualize the first three rows and be brutally honest about your impact on those people who are likely your closest friends and family, compared to the others who are sitting in rows 10 through 20 (your acquaintances, clients and customers).

Now write the second eulogy that encompasses all your future achievements, keeping in mind the same people in those first three rows. Compare the two to re-evaluate how you are spending your time and the decisions you are making. When you are true to yourself, you start releasing the anxiety caused by the expectations of others who don’t matter as much.

This activity also helps remind us of what truly matters in our life, and whether our time spent is in proper alignment with our true self.


  1. Hyatt, M. & Harkavy, D. – Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want

Posted by Professor Pete Alexander

A seasoned professional with over 30 years of Sales and Marketing experience, Pete has battled the negative effects of stress head-on and has developed the LIGHTEN™ stress relief model that motivates his peers to take action and overcome their self-imposed barriers to success using clever yet simple tools and techniques.

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