Rise Above Family Conflict

Stress Relief Tool – Rise Above Family Conflict

The next time you find yourself in an unwanted family argument, give one of these techniques a try to avoid any unnecessary stress.

We’ve all been there – arguing with a family member and we end up saying something that we regret later, or we experience lingering negative emotions because of that encounter. This becomes an even more common occurrence if we are spending more time at home because of COVID-19 restrictions.

While we likely cannot avoid all of this conflict, we can reduce the negative stress surrounding these encounters utilizing one or more of the following techniques:

  • Use the S.T.O.P. Method – If you are caught in a family dispute, and the situation is reaching the boiling point, you should stop responding and excuse yourself (such as to the bathroom or another empty room), take a few deep breaths, observe on your own how you feel and what triggered you (your thoughts, emotions and physical response), and then proceed back into the original room once you have composed and grounded yourself.
  • Actively Listen to the Other Person – Listening builds trust. When we listen—that is, truly listen—to someone, we communicate that they are important to us and have something valuable to contribute. Show mutual respect and listen to each other’s viewpoints. It’s the best way to resolve an argument.
  • Avoid Saying “Always”, “Never” or “You” – “Always” and “never” are indefinite qualifiers that usually make a statement more hostile. “You NEVER do your share, and you ALWAYS mess everything up.” These statements aren’t helpful, and they do nothing but fan the flames of conflict. If you must address an issue with a friend or family member, “sometimes” can make him or her feel less defensive. This also goes for the word “you”. Saying something like “You are just like your mother” can make matters worse. To deescalate a family argument, be inclusive and make “we” statements. For example, “Can we sit down together and go over the bills to create a more feasible budget?” demonstrates that you are willing to work together for a solution instead of blaming or resorting to the victim mentality.

The next time you find yourself in an unwanted family argument, give one of these techniques a try to avoid any unnecessary stress. Remember that your family loves you, and this is another way you can demonstrate your love for them.

Please note that there is no guarantee a particular stress relief tool will work for you. Thus you must take complete responsibility for using them and for your own physical and emotional wellbeing. Further, Professor Pete Alexander is not a licensed health professional. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of any stress relief technique. Medical advice must only be obtained from a physician or qualified health practitioner.

Posted by Professor Pete Alexander

A seasoned professional with over 30 years of Sales and Marketing experience, Pete has battled the negative effects of stress head-on and has developed the LIGHTEN™ stress relief model that motivates his peers to better protect their health and handle challenging situations with grace and success.

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