Reframe Your Fear

Stress Relief Tool – Reframe Your Fear

Learn what the acronym F.E.A.R. is and how to overcome it using a simple process to reduce your stress.

Fear is an emotional response to an actual threat, and it’s a fundamental survival mechanism that dates back to the Stone Age, when survival from predators was of primary concern. Fear is also a true emotional response when we’re about to lose someone or something that’s important to us. And it’s not just about our personal safety: we can fear the loss of a loved one to illness or our home to foreclosure.

The solution to your fear may just be reframing it. Do you know what the acronym F.E.A.R. stands for? False Evidence Appearing Real. It is an illusion, something we fabricate in our own minds that feels real. It’s a fairy tale we tell ourselves that keeps us from doing what we really want.1

The best way to move out of your fear is to get out of your comfort zone and visualize what it would be like to overcome your fear. Is there a clear path to getting there? Ask yourself what you would attempt if you knew you could not fail.2 You might surprise yourself with what your active and unconscious mind comes up with.

If that doesn’t work, try a slightly different approach. Ask yourself, “what is the worst that can happen?” And then follow up with “and then what?” “Okay, and then what?” and “Okay, and then what?” By going through this process of following a line of thought, you may find that the particular fear no longer has a hold on you.3


Please note that there is no guarantee a particular stress relief tool will work for you. Thus you must take complete responsibility for using them and for your own physical and emotional wellbeing. Further, Professor Pete Alexander is not a licensed health professional. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of any stress relief technique. Medical advice must only be obtained from a physician or qualified health practitioner.

  1. Clark, B. – Is F.E.A.R. Holding You Back?
  2. Robert Schuller, American Pastor and Author, 1926 – 2015.
  3. Frances, K. – The Funny Thing About Stress; a Seriously Humorous Guide to a Happier Life

Posted by Professor Pete Alexander

A seasoned professional with over 35 years of Sales, Marketing, Educational and Entrepreneurial experience, Pete has battled the negative effects of stress head-on and has developed the LIGHTEN™ stress relief model that motivates his peers to better protect their health and handle challenging situations with grace and success.


Mike O’Connor

This is great!

Professor Pete Alexander

Thank you Mike!

Corey Clark

Great message, Professor Pete! I also admire your camera/speaking skills. This is something I am really working hard on, so I like to acknowledge good skills when I see them.

I spend far too much time living in the future due to FEAR. The funny part is…a lot of it never even happened…

Professor Pete Alexander

Corey, thank you so much for your kind words! I’ve spent many years doing presentations, etc., and the funny thing is that I always get a little nervous – which tells me I am excited about what I am going to speak about. That’s what I would suggest working on – you obviously have passion in your posts on LinkedIn – carry that over onto video 🙂

And isn’t it so true about FEAR. The vast majority of people tell me the same thing. If we can just eliminate the negative stress of ruminating about the past and anxiety of the future, all the rest would be good stress 🙂

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