Professor Pete Alexander

Stress Relief Tool – Realize You Cannot Do It All

If you have a long task list, concentrate only on those items you know you can do well. Try delegating the ones you cannot possibly get to and/or complete satisfactorily, and be OK with not being a perfectionist.

I grew up a perfectionist because I was always striving for my father’s approval. No matter what I excelled at as a child, my father always found something to nitpick. Fortunately as an adult I got over that using various self-help techniques, and I even had the wonderful opportunity to make amends with my father when he was in hospice. I came to find out during his last days that he was truly proud of me, and that helped me reduce my need to be a perfectionist.

Not being a perfectionist means that to be good at one thing, you have to be bad at something else. So what should you do once you realize you can’t do everything? Come up with a strategy. As author Jon Acuff says: “You only have two options right now: 1. Attempt more than is humanly possible and fail. 2. Choose what to bomb and succeed at a goal that matters.”1 Assuming you choose option 2, try delegating the ones you cannot possibly get to and/or complete satisfactorily, and be OK with not being a perfectionist.

Please note that there is no guarantee a particular stress relief tool will work for you. Thus you must take complete responsibility for using them and for your own physical and emotional wellbeing. Further, Professor Pete Alexander is not a licensed health professional. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of any stress relief technique. Medical advice must only be obtained from a physician or qualified health practitioner.

  1. Acuff, J. – To Be Good at One Thing You Have to Be Bad at Something Else

Posted by Professor Pete Alexander

A seasoned professional with over 35 years of Sales, Marketing, Educational and Entrepreneurial experience, Pete has battled the negative effects of stress head-on and has developed the LIGHTEN™ stress relief model that motivates his peers to better protect their health and handle challenging situations with grace and success.

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