Professor Pete Alexander

Stress Relief Tool – Avoid The Victim Mentality

Your past will only be your future if you carry it there and continue to stress about it.

This was an important lesson for me in my quest to reduce my stress. The severe family dysfunction I experienced as a child turned me into an angry young adult who liked to blame others for everything: my boss, my parents, family, and friends. Fortunately, I discovered a 12-step program called Adult Children of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families (ACoA) which taught me to take responsibility for my own actions and become my own loving parent.1 I have been an active member of this program since 1990.

I’ve also been inspired by Regina Hartley’s presentation about Scrappers. Scrappers reframe childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as Post Traumatic Success Decision. They are driven by the belief that the only person they can change is themselves. They figure if they can survive their upbringing, the challenges of business are a piece of cake.2

Most everyone has a story of a struggle to share. Some people define themselves by it; others act in spite of it. The important thing to remember is that your past will only be your future if you carry it there.

You can take action at any time to change your attitude, especially if you ask yourself this question: “Is there anyone on the planet having it worse than me right now?”

Take your answer to heart, pick yourself back up, and notice your outlook improving and your stress level reducing.

Please note that there is no guarantee a particular stress relief tool will work for you. Thus you must take complete responsibility for using them and for your own physical and emotional wellbeing. Further, Professor Pete Alexander is not a licensed health professional. Please consult qualified health practitioners regarding your use of any stress relief technique. Medical advice must only be obtained from a physician or qualified health practitioner.

  1. Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization – The Solution
  2. Hartley, R. – Why the Best Hire Might Not Have the Perfect Resume 

Posted by Professor Pete Alexander

A seasoned professional with over 35 years of Sales, Marketing, Educational and Entrepreneurial experience, Pete has battled the negative effects of stress head-on and has developed the LIGHTEN™ stress relief model that motivates his peers to better protect their health and handle challenging situations with grace and success.


Love your thoughts Pete. “Your past will only be your future if carry it there.” Spot on! We all go through challenges but we determine how they will affect us! Great insights.

Professor Pete Alexander

Thank you so much for reviewing and your kind words Randy! And you are absolutely right – we determine how challenges ultimately effect us!

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